Just peer inside and read: who you are, your likes and dislikes, your hopes and fears; they are all there, ready to be understood. This notion is popular but is probably completely false! Psychological research shows that we do not have privileged access to who we are. When we try to assess ourselves accurately, we are really poking around in a fog. As a result, our self-image has surprisingly little to do with our actions. For example, we may be absolutely convinced that we are empathetic and generous but still walk right past a homeless person on a cold day. The reason for this distorted view is quite simple, according to Pronin. Because we do not want to be stingy, arrogant, or self-righteous, we assume that we are not any of those things. As evidence, she points to our divergent views of ourselves and others. We have no trouble recognizing how prejudiced or unfair our office colleague acts toward another person.
1. What Do You Like?
Why do we experience a loss of identity?
A strong sense of self helps us navigate life and brings meaning to our experiences. Work at your own pace. Perhaps one per week is more realistic for you. Rediscovering yourself is a process. It will take thinking, talking, writing, and doing. To learn more, visit Sharon's website. And please sign-up for free access to her resource library HERE worksheets, tips, meditations, and resources for healing codependency, perfectionism, anxiety and more. Or via RSS Feed.
Nine Things You Don’t Know about Yourself
Last Updated: April 14, References Approved. There are 12 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed , times. Knowing yourself is an important step to achieving happiness and peace. To learn your true self, identify the qualities that make you unique.
To truly know yourself is the most important skill you can ever possess. When you know who you are, you know what you need to do, instead of looking for permission from others to do what you already know you ought to do. It allows you to bypass tons of frustration caused by putting time into the wrong things. Yes, life is supposed to be full of trial and error, but this lets you find the best areas for you to experiment with in the first place.